This morning I was listening to the Rickey Smiley Morning Show and they had an interesting topic. Rickey stated that 42% of black women will not be married. That wasn't surprising to me. So I decided to put this up as my facebook status with a little twist to it. I stated "42% of black women will not ever be married but most all of them will have children...is this a problem?" I was interested in what the response was going to be and of course someone responded.
Here goes our exchange about the topic.
Dionne Mitchell at 9:52am February 17 via Facebook Mobile
yes it is a problem, but women cannot make babies by themselves so should the question be why are men making babies and not marrying the women they making babies with?
Cliff 'Smitty' Smith at 10:40am February 17 via Facebook Mobile
I personally don't think its a big deal but I will have more on my thoughts in my next blog post later today
Dionne Mitchell at 11:02am February 17 via Facebook Mobile
well . . . don't start those type of discussion unless you can discuss! but hope all is well!
Cliff 'Smitty' Smith at 11:12am February 17 via Facebook Mobile
Well to keep a long story shor I feel what a child needs most are two loving parents that support them financially and ekotionally. You don't need marriage to do that...I am doing well...I hope you are too. m
Dionne Mitchell at 11:24am February 17 via Facebook Mobile
Im good, but two loving parents will be there anyway, but the environment may not be 'loving' which will possibly be harmful to the child in which those parents may argue or not deal with each other which results in emotional distress for that child.
Cliff 'Smitty' Smith at 11:50am February 17 via Facebook Mobile
I don't think two loving parents are always there. Many single parent families have one parent trying to play both roles. Marriage. Doesn't mean there will be a loving home for a child
Dionne Mitchell at 12:09pm February 17 via Facebook Mobile
true but it sure helps!!!
Interesting exchange. I bet some are surprised by the responses but it was a nice exchange on the topic. Well I am going to go in to a little more detail on my position with being having babies and not being wed. Well breaking news I am not in particular a big fan of marriage. I believe that America has made a mockery with it and it's just not that important. All it is, in my opinion, is another headache just in case you all break up. I know some people will begin quoting there bibles or what not but I don't care. Quote whatever you want and I will tell you this. Marriage in America is a joke. The way people divorce left and right is ridiculous and shameful if you want to go by your christian standards. Don't get me wrong, I am a Christian. I understand that some of you will think that since the bible says that's something we should do then you should do it. I encourage people to marry if they feel it is right for them.
Now what about the children. I come from a single parent family. My mother and father weren't married when my sister and I were born. She ended up raising us by herself. No financial or emotional care from our father. We definitely could have used it from our father. Instead of us worrying about why our people aren't getting married we need to worry about why there aren't two people working together to raise the children that they have brought into the world! I personally feel that financial and emotion support are important for children. No child was asked to be brought into this world. We need to quit advocating for people to be strong independent women and to start reprimanding those people who are being careless with sex and having these children with a deadbeat parent. I have seen too much of it and I am sick of it. It really does bother me seeing children raised in a single parent home. By single parent I am referring to a home where only one parent is raising the child and the other parent isn't providing any emotional and financial support. People claim to love their children (which I don't doubt) but why set them up for such a rough life. Does this apply to everyone...No but it applies to a lot of people and needs to be said. I am tired of people having children and fathers and some mothers not helping raise these children. Every child deserves two loving parents.
Ok I am going to quit ranting now and I hope this all makes sense. I am open to discussing this with anyone. In no way or shape or form am I trying to offend anyone so if you take it personal I don't know what to tell you. It's my opinion whether you like it or not.
I am America's Nightmare...
